To the four young men I have under roof at present.
Dear young men,
You are growing up in a world that is unclear about the what a man is and what it means to be one. This is happening in so many ways. I have even seen it happen on little shows you watch. The child on the show often portrayed as being very knowledgable and must thwart the authority of their dim witted parents, mostly dad, in order to have favorable outcomes. I know right now you identify most with the children in the show, but, as time warps by, you will more likely identify with the man. I am not going to try and define for you all the ins and outs of what it means to be a man in this post. It is more complex on one hand and far simpler on the other, than what this world would have you believe. I will just define for you one word. Gentleness.
This is a misused and misunderstood word. We think of little harmless things as gentle. Sometimes girls are described as gentle because of their perceived lack of rough and tumbleness. Know that girls can be ungentle too. A soft fluffy kitten, might be called gentle. Though very sweet looking a few minutes with a kitten can leave one scratched and stinging. Girls are learning gentleness too.
Gentleness is strength harnessed. A lion that chooses not to eat you, should be called gentle. Our dog is gentle because he restrains his ability to harm. When I ask you to be gentle, I am not asking you to shelve your strength. I am asking you to be fully aware of it and in control of it.
A man who is gentle, recognizes his strength and harness it. He chooses to use it in helpful and kind ways.
You are to be gentle. We will know you are strong and powerful because you are gentle.